Many years ago, I read a book by Christine Carter, PhD, called Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents. My daughter was five at the time and I instantly incorporated the tips into our lives (they indeed were simple). In her book, Dr. Carter emphasized the value of sitting down as a family to share a meal. Fortunately, this was something my daughter and I already did, probably because I grew up that way. However, I wasn’t aware of the research supporting the mental health benefits of gathering around the table. Since the book’s 2011 publication, additional studies have upheld these conclusions.
Studies, Studies, Studies
A 2017 study in Family Relations found that families who eat together regularly report stronger emotional bonds, with kids feeling more supported and parents feeling more connected. Even in tough times, a simple group meal can feel like an anchor, reminding us we’re not alone. Per a 2018 Pediatrics study, regular family dinners are linked to lower rates of anxiety and depression in kids because they feel seen and valued.
It’s not just families, though. Friends, coworkers, or even strangers at a community supper can feel like a tribe after sharing a spread. A 2020 study in Journal of Community Psychology showed that communal meals reduce feelings of loneliness and boost well-being, especially for older adults or those living alone. Here’s an interesting observation: a 2019 Appetite study found people eat healthier in groups, opting for veggies over fries when others do, too.
Happiness, Relationships and Community
Eating together signals inclusion. It sparks conversations that deepen relationships. Whether it’s debating the best wood for smoking a brisket or swapping stories at a potluck, these moments build trust and camaraderie. Eating together also builds habits that stick. Children learn manners, gratitude, and even cooking skills by watching adults at the table. For adults, regular group meals reinforce discipline, like sticking to healthier choices or unplugging from screens. Traditions born at the table—Sunday brunches, annual cookouts—become touchstones, giving life rhythm and meaning.
Stuck in a Rut? The Brain Craves Novelty.
Whether dining in or out, consider trying new recipes or types of foods. Our brains benefit from novelty. When we encounter something new, our brain releases dopamine (a “feel-good” chemical). New experiences also boost our creativity and enhance neuroplasticity, thereby improving memory. Trying new things helps us adapt to change and feel more confident when faced with uncertainty.
If you’re going out, consider something engaging (and delicious), like Korean Barbecue or Shabu-Shabu. Go someplace you’ve never been. If you’re staying at home, cook a new recipe. Venture out of your comfort zone. Share the cooking tasks and let the conversation flow.
Do What Works
In our busy, screen-filled lives, eating together takes effort, but it’s worth it. There were times in my life when schedules were so packed (or I was so exhausted) that my daughter and I ate together in the car. We shared most meals at the table, but I admit that some of my favorite food memories involved eating in the parked car while watching funny cat videos. My daughter’s an adult now, living an hour away, but sometimes we still meet and eat in the car, where we can talk and laugh loudly without disturbing anyone. The point is to do what works for you. Regardless of where you are, every bite shared is a step toward connection, feeding both body and soul.
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